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Recently, more and more big cities have quietly opened up silicone dolls "adult experience museums".

 

The silicone dolls are a kind of simulated adult sex products, which are made according to the real person 1:1, close to the touch of the real person, used to meet the physical needs of people.

 

 

In the beginning, most of these experience halls were opened near factories and were mostly consumed by migrant workers and older men.

 

Nowadays, these users are becoming younger and younger.

 

There are white-collar workers, ordinary workers and even college students who patronise the adult experience centres.

 

The owner of one silicone doll shop admits that of the more than 5,000 services he has provided at his shop, 80% of the consumers are adult males in the 20-35 range.

 

The "shared sex doll" experience hall, a search on a software in Beijing, can search out 242.

 

 

Young men sneak in, spend money and then sneak out.

 

Some think it's against human decency and that they come and go with a sense of shame.

 

Others feel that it is just a biological need and does not need to be taken to the extreme.

 

In countries like France, where red-light districts are strictly forbidden, dolls can be licensed.

 

 

In Austria, local men go crazy for sex dolls and sales are phenomenal: they come in all types, from Japanese sex dolls, mature sex dolls, young sex dolls, mini sex dolls and so on

 

 

Sex is an immediate social need, and young people don't want to go into relationships to get it.

 

But the hidden lust never goes away, but grows and grows underground.

 

A lot of articles are written about how "young people don't fall in love anymore" and how no one wants to be in a relationship, but young people are secretly using faster ways to satisfy their needs.

 

Behind the rise of the "silicone doll" phenomenon, the most important thing to think about is the fact that more and more young people are living a repressed, non-possessive life.

 

There is less and less need for relationships, less and less desire for material things, and more and more inclination to be single.

 

Even sexuality, not even a living person is needed anymore.

 

 

 

Kanaris, director of the Psychological Services Centre in New York, says that young men choose to have sex with inanimate silicone dolls because "there is no emotional or interpersonal feedback".

 

Meaning, they increasingly prefer the simplicity of a social relationship that is not overly involved.

 

And the negative effects are obvious.

 

They are so obsessed with lusting and developing relationships with dolls that they isolate themselves from real and full human relationships.

 

In the film The Wedding Banquet, the guests drink themselves to death and talk slutty to the bride. Faced with the foreigners' disbelief, Ang Lee came up and said something that would explain many phenomena.

 

 

You are seeing the results of 5,000 years of sexual repression.

 

 

 

The most recent census showed that the single population in China surpassed 240 million.

 

 

How huge is the figure of 240 million?

 

It means that the number of single, marriageable men and women in our country is already equal to the entire population of Russia and the UK combined.

 

In fact, this is not just the current situation in our country, the rate of singles in the UK and France is also terribly high, with one in three marriageable men and women being single.

 

And in the United States, 50.2% of young men and women over the age of 16 are single.

 

It stands to reason that as society becomes more developed, young people's desires should flourish even more, as the cost of acquiring sex and love will be cheaper.

 

But let's pull our eyes a little closer and we see that

 

 

 

More and more people are starting to become more nerdy, and there is a general perception that relationships are troublesome, too draining, and even that there is nothing better to look forward to in life as a whole.

 

In the film 'Send Me to the Green', there is a character who says something like

 

Love and lust are the gates of life and death through which everyone must pass, and from which they must come out and go back in.

 

What makes a person human is that there are layers and layers of desires, and it is by actively embracing one's desires and striving to face progress that one can live one's most expansive self.

 

In his Diary of Pain, Tsai Kang-yong mentions.

 

"Civilisation shows us taste, and the function of this taste is to enable us to distinguish whether our desires are inferior or noble, but not to teach us to become desireless.

Without desire, I am afraid, we can only become dull, not gain wisdom."

 

 

O to live as a vibrant, brave and enthusiastic person.

 

Humanity as a whole is full of desire, and that is the source of civilisation.

 

We work diligently and earn it with our hands. Wanting more prosperous material things, there are countless people who work to reclaim the acquisition.

 

They face their desires head on, rather than suppressing them.

 

The problem with the youth of today is not really that they have no desires, but that they work hard to compress themselves, saying that they are fine on their own when they obviously want it all.

 

As Ken Lee says, we all have to live in harmony with our desires, rather than just suppressing them.

 

 

If you want to be loved, go and love people.

 

To manage relationships, to learn how to get along with the opposite sex, that's actually what we have to face and knock ourselves into for life.

 

 

 

In the film "Send Me to the Green Cloud", it is only when the story begins with Yao Chen playing the female protagonist learning that she has ovarian cancer that she begins to confront and examine her body's aspirations.

 

 

There is a sequence in the film where she expresses her love to a male in a library.

 

I want to make love to you.

 

Not in a polite way, but in a straightforward way.

 

The director even feels that the expression is not enough and wants her to have a sex scene.

 

It is only after the two are entwined that she realises how real and vibrant her previously avoided and repressed desires are at this moment.

 

This is a film about women facing up to their desires, showing that there is no shame in them and no need to avoid them.

 

Desire is the undercurrent of a happy life.

 

It is only when one works towards one's desires that one's life will be meaningful, that one will have something to look forward to, something to think about.

 

In the documentary Twenty Two, the 90-year-old man also says.

 

"The world is red hot, so eat wild things and save this life to see them."

 

 

Having lived half a century, the old people understand that the true meaning of life is layers of desire, interwoven into joy, anger and sorrow, so that one can feel love, gain and loss.

 

The men who sneak into silicone dollhouses and those who ask strangers to have sex with them on the internet are all too lonely.

 

They are too afraid to enter into a real relationship, too afraid to open up and express their love and hate with the opposite sex, and that's why they stay lonely.

 

But the ultimate solution to these problems is to love and experience hard.

 

Desire makes people feel truly alive. Many people are afraid to ask for it but cannot get it, so they hide quietly, watch from afar and then wither away in silence.

 

In fact, it is not necessary, life is short, please live your self hard, get love and hate, it is all a gain.

 

The world is a beautiful place, please don't suppress yourself too much, go ahead and love boldly.